Yeah, they say it’s hard to move on especially when someone dearest to you has hurt you a lot, but I tell you not in my case, my secret to getting over someone is not to think about them often. It’s about trying to live each day without thinking about them. Though sometimes I can think of the person, but only the person itself not talking about feelings anymore. It’s just a matter of setting your mind that, that one person is no longer for you and that you have to move and look for brighter side of things. Don’t dwell anymore on the past things, the good things you two share together, and the memories. I know it could only lead to wanting that person or missing them more. That’s not so right. I used to do that before, whenever my bf and I broke up, he would apologize and I would just forgive him and get back with him again. This time, let’s say I’m not merciful enough. I’m thinking now of my self worth. It’s about having a peace of mind by letting go of that someone. Mind you, I was so in love with this person but there’s a point that I said to myself that this is enough and I have to be firm with my decisions. I know things can still be resolved but only to his benefit but not for me. I was thinking if I would try to fix things and get back with him? Do I feel happy? I know it would be a cycle again, kiss and make up and I’m so tired of that stuff. I think one should learn a lesson that not all things could be done by apologies and only to find out doing the same mistake again. I know it’s a burden on one’s part. I know I can forgive but the scars won’t heal if I won’t totally let go of that person. Yeah it’s sad, but I’m trying to be strong, strong enough that I won’t be touch by my emotions with so much self-pity from a guy.
In my situation, my bf of 2 years (my first bf), now my ex-bf, was trying to get a hold of me. He did everything just so I would get back with him, but for me it’s too late. It’s still useless, cuz he’s far away now. I know he struggled a lot there to find a job, but one thing or another he taken me for granted, not only that, there are still private things that he did something and it really hurt me a lot, let’s just say he never respected me at some point. He never valued me I guess, and he realized lately that he needed me. He did all the explanations suffice it to say “bullsh*t reasons” just so I’m convince I would not break up with him. But this time, I’m gonna say it’s over for good. I’m ignoring all his calls and texts just so I could forget everything. I’m enjoying my life here with my friends. I’m really having a sense of fulfillment when I did bond with my friends. This past few weeks, my classes is almost over and I did grab a chance to party, I didn’t even think what time I would go home, all I know is I’m doing it so that I couldn’t even think about him, and yeah it’s EFFECTIVE. I met new people too, little did I know there are still good people around me, I didn’t even expect that there would be someone out there who cares for me more than my ex bf does. But I wouldn’t jump into a new relationship that fast. I’m just trying to observe and see what goes after this. Well, I know it’s still fresh, and I thought to myself that it would take me a year I guess before I would try to have a new relationship. All I know, is I’m happier than ever before. I thought to myself there is still a life ahead of me and that I’m not gonna waste my time with so much drama in life. Let things do itself and I’m always praying to the Man above that he would guide me and give me more happiness in life. That’s just about it, I learned that sometimes you have to let go of things that could be miserable to you. As the saying goes, “you’re happy standing in the rain, but you know it could make you sick”.
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